/comfy/ - A place to relax

>>16209 (OP) 
I definitely don't have any good answers. It seems really difficult with the state of the modern Internet.

I had made a couple of friends over the years, but all of them let me down in the end, treading over my sincerity.

>>16215
>let me down in the end, treading over my sincerity
Same here sort of. Usually goes like this. Get invited into sooper sekrit IRC. Social dynamics and suddenly remember why I don't enjoy socializing IRL. Suddenly remember what I appreciate about being anon. Best of luck to OP and those that enjoy that sort of thing. Seriously. Don't mean to blackpill.

t. habby go lucky nihilist

>>16216
>nihilist
I'm so sorry.

>>16216
I didn't mean social dynamics, I meant people flipping their attitude to me from being friendly to openly despising me. >>16218
I woodn't dismiss nihilism, parts of it are certainly true. Life in general is bretty absurd, and you can't hide the intrinsic lack of meaning. Though I'm not sure what else people imply when they say 'nihilism' these days. Lack of knowledge? Well our knowledge is certainly limited. Lack of morality? Well, life is immoral sometimes.

Chats are a good way to have some chitchat and socialize a bit with random online personas. IRC channels are populated with more grey beards than discord servers and matrix rooms are in between both.
Pick a chat from a topic you enjoy and you will organically make friends this way.
Most online friends in my case don't last more than a couple months, some a couple of years, I think it's natural to not stick around too much. The only ones that I still have contact with are people that I have seen IRL after some time being only online.

If you are here it's because you also like the anon life. I feel safer this way, I can discuss freely knowing there will be no consequences, there isn't a nickname attached to whatever you want to ramble that day.

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>>16218
Thanks, I guess, but I'm sorry you omitted the habby go lucky part.

>>16224
Disagree with eberry word of what you say, all of that is lies.
>Chats are a good way
No, they are not a good way to do anything. Chats are the last resort when you have nowhere else to ask for help, but they are absolutely terrible for any form of socialization, they twist and ruin your brain. Socialize outside.
>IRC channels are populated with more grey beards than discord servers and matrix rooms are in between both.
IRC channels are populated by Serial Experiments Lain fans and paranoid characters who are on the frequency of battling mass surveillance (without leaving their homes). Grey beards retired long ago and either moved to more conventional platforms, or if they are IRC-minded, they only check it out as a part of their hobbies and don't socialize much.
>Pick a chat from a topic you enjoy and you will organically make friends this way.
Not unless you're really lucky, besides, there aren't a great many of topics discussed on IRC.
>If you are here it's because you also like the anon life.
It's a pure habit at this point, there is nothing I like about anonymity anymore.
>I feel safer this way
Safe from whom?
>I can discuss freely knowing there will be no consequences
This is the most cursed thing of anonymity, and it encourages low quality discussion so strongly that there aren't any imageboards left where you can discuss anything and observe a noteworthy level of insight in any of the people who reply. This especially I have found to be the most evil thing of anonymous discourse, it ruins your brain completely, makes you afraid of taking responsibility for what you say. A trap for the mentally weak that feeds the weakness on itself and multiplies it. I wish I invested my time into learning to deal with my issues instead of escaping to imageboards, because they are a safe place to rant.

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>>16230
/comfy/ is not a place for spewing diatribes. Please leave if you don't want to be here.  This is not the place to express your anger or dissatisfaction.
>This especially I have found to be the most evil thing of anonymous discourse, it ruins your brain completely, makes you afraid of taking responsibility for what you say. 
A person with integrity doesn't need a guiding hand to force them to act decently in any situation.  Decent people take responsibility by themselves.

>>16231
/thread.

Please, keep it nice guys.
I am sure we can discuss the points on which our views differ without any ill feelings.
Each of you has valid arguments, just be sure to discuss them without resorting to personal attacks or resentment.

>>16235
BO, I apologize if this was inappropriate:
>>16231

>>16216
>Social dynamics and suddenly remember why I don't enjoy socializing IRL.
>>16224
> I feel safer this way, I can discuss freely knowing there will be no consequences, there isn't a nickname attached to whatever you want to ramble that day.
That's how I feel about posting on traditional forums. I'd much rather be here than somewhere I feel the need to maintain some kind of persona. Maybe I woodn't mind something like Urbit, since if I really got into it I could have different planets for different purposes,  but I don't know.

>>16235
Such meta topics escalate naturally. Threads like this need a breathing captcha. "Please inhale deeply and exhale fully 30 times before posting".

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>>16209 (OP) 
As far as I remember using internet, I never tried to make friends because the sole concept of "online friendship" always seems too abstract for me.
However I remember using a little chat where I met a what was supposedly a girl and we then had a nice correspondance by mails. It stopped when my mailbox was hacked (long story short I wasn't aware of even the most obvious techniques used to put you at risk on the web, but I learned a lot after that).

I enjoy anonymous places because I don't like to be "someone" on internet. I think anonymous posting can be nice as long as you don't try to be someone else, you're honest and you know how to respect the netiquette.

I use some forums mostly for technical reasons so yes I have some identities here and there, never the same avatar but always the same dude behind as I don't feel the need to roleplay (LARPING may be fun sometimes but always in good faith and on places where it's ok to do it). And again I use these forums mostly for educational purposes and not really to be part of a community. Even if I'm proud sometimes to be part of some of them and and contribute positively to it (same for some anonymous places like /comfy in fact).

Like in my IRL life I'm not someone trying too hard to sociabilise, I enjoy spending some nice moments with nice people when it comes naturally (like having some joint activities). I'm just doing it kindly and in general it attract kind people.

Otherwise, I am a habby and fulfilled loner. Even on the internets :)

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Each time I make online "friends" I have the urge to disappear at one point. It just gets stressful for me when they suddenly expect to chat eberryday.
On top of that, I get obsessed with things and then forget about it entirely and obsess over something else repetitively.

Maybe I'm a bit autistic, but I prefer the anon ib to avoid what I described. I have also other forums and im accounts that I use and delete when, again, what I described above inevitability habbens. I have been actively posting in forums and other forms of social spaces for the last 20 years and I lost contact with all the friends that I made along the way.

People are also change and irl life gets on the way. It's almost impossible to make a long lasting relationship with an online friend.

btw, I still miss nanochan, that's where I started loving the anon lifestyle and where I made most of my recent online friends. Sometimes you just find a place that fits with like-minded people for your (you) of that time.

>>16246
>It just gets stressful for me when they suddenly expect to chat eberryday.
Heh didn't think it was habbening to someone else too. Can relate.
>use and delete when, again
Interesting. I've never managed to befriend anyone on traditional forums, at least never to such degree, that they wood want to message me more often than once in never.
>irl life gets on the way
I'm bretty sure it's the other way around. People surrender themselves to IRL completely, because internet life is too unfulfilling for them.

>>16209 (OP) 

I made friends with a pair of brothers online, over minecraft bedwars. nice times.

I imagine you could knock up a game you enjoy and just start enjoying it with others. 
I like games which inspire co-operation against common obstacles, for common goals. 

I hear arc raiders is making a ruckus, might be promising.